Have you ever deliberately disobeyed God after He told you to do something? Has God ever answered your prayers with HIS answer but yet you still chose to do something different than what He told you? Have you ever disobeyed an instruction or a law?


Were you ever told not to touch a hot stove as a child and you still “accidentally” touched it anyway and surprisingly got burnt??!!!!!

Have you ever seen the speed limit sign that says 40mph and you go 60mph and end up getting a ticket or getting in a wreck??


Ever drove straight through a RED stop light? No need to answer, we’re all guilty as charged.

I am writing this because it has become quite evident that the people of God have begun to turn to their own ways and simply do their own thing. Yes, God does give us free will and an opportunity to make our own choices, but He also provides a safety net for us by gently speaking to us and letting us know what the right thing to do is. The sad part is that many of us DON’T listen! We hear and we don’t listen. We see the destruction and we continue to head straight towards it. We know we’ll end up in pain, but we still hang on to the very thing that God told us to let go of. Why do we do this? Are we so foolish and ignorant that we can’t hear or see? Have we gotten so far away from God that we can’t even hear His voice? Tell me this. If you knew there was a danger zone on the highway that would cause you to get killed or total your car, would you keep heading for it?


Because in essence, that is what we are doing. We know there’s a trap. We know there’s danger. We know there’s hurt and pain on the other side of what WE choose to pursue, but yet we still pursue it in hopes that God will turn it around and BLESS OUR MESS. If there’s one thing that I would want you to remember after reading this blog, it is this. “GOD IS NOT OBLIGATED TO BLESS YOUR MESS.” You can’t just do what you want to do and then tack God on the end of it when He wasn’t the foundation of it from the beginning.

How would you like it if someone sent you an invitation to an event after the event had already occurred? And let’s take it a step further..How would you feel if you knew that the only reason they invited you was to cover up for their wrong in not inviting you in the first place?


Because let’s face it, if they REALLY wanted you there they would have asked prior to the event. The same way you feel is the same way God feels. You discredit God’s importance when you try to invite Him “after the fact.” AFTER you experience the pain and the loss He tried to keep you from…AFTER you experience the destruction of your disobedience..AFTER you lose your job and the money stops flowing..AFTER you are in the middle of a divorce…AFTER you begin to suffer sickness in your body..AFTER you lose everything. We cannot continue to try to get God to break, bend, mold and contribute to OUR dysfunction when He tried to prevent you from the destruction to begin with. When we are disobedient, there is a high price to pay.


The end of disobedience is DEATH. PERIOD. Although God has the ability to turn things around and change hearts and minds, God is not the author of confusion and He hates sin. Yes, HATES. Proverbs 6:16 says, “There are six things the Lord HATES, seven that are detestable to him.” And my friends, SIN is one of them.

And just in case we forget, disobedience is SIN. In the Bible, James 14:17 clearly states, “Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin.” So yes, if we know we are supposed to do something and we choose not to do it because we simply don’t want to, we are in SIN and we must begin to yield to God or we will be headed for a road of destruction. We can’t possibly be followers of Christ and continue in disobedience. For this reason, Jesus asks us in Luke 6:46, “Why do you keep on saying that I am your Lord, when you refuse to do what I say?” After a while, if we’re not careful, God will give us over to a reprobate mind if we are continuously doing our own thing. Paul writes in Romans 1:28, “Since they thought it foolish to acknowledge God, He abandoned them to their foolish thinking and let them do things that should never be done.” So this means that if we continue in disobedience, and we continuously deny God and His instructions, He will leave us in our foolishness and let us do what we want at our own expense. And this my friends, is a dangerous place to be.


So don’t get mad when your Christian friends and family members tell you the truth about your mess. Don’t get mad when they DON’T support your dysfunction and BLESS YOUR MESS. They’re not supposed to. A friend who enables your dysfunction is no good, and I’d advise you to check your circle of friends if this exists amongst your fellowships. What good is it to have someone around that condones your dysfunction? What you need are friends that don’t mind telling you the truth…Friends that don’t mind standing on the truth and losing you in the process. But let’s face it, quite frankly there are many of us who would rather lose a good friend who doesn’t condone our dysfunction than not be able to do what we want to do and feel comfortable doing it.  As my father always says, “I’m telling you what the Lord loves…THE TRUTH.”


And for those of us who have taken a stand for what is right and for what we know to be right as spoken from God, KEEP STANDING. Our friends or family members will find out soon enough. God always exposes darkness and reveals truth. And if we should lose friends or family members who become upset with us for telling the truth, we are to count up the cost and count them as a loss. As Paul wrote in Philipians 3:8, “What is more, I consider everything a LOSS because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them garbage, that I may gain Christ.” So, do not think it to be strange when people walk away from you. Most likely they walked away because their hearts are full of darkness (due to their disobedience) and darkness cannot stand in the presence of Light. Light and darkness cannot occupy the same space at the same time so don’t be alarmed when they go running away. Light CHASES the dark away so let them go. Do not become a partaker of their evil deeds and wicked work by agreeing with their dysfunction.

2 John 1:9-11
9 Anyone who runs ahead and does not continue in the teaching of Christ does not have God; whoever continues in the teaching has both the Father and the Son. 10 If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not take them into your house or welcome them. 11 Anyone who welcomes them shares in their wicked work.

So, when they disappear or run away, let them run and remember that it’s not you. And quite frankly, it’s not them either. It’s the enemy at work in them to detour them from their purpose and the blessings that God has for them. You’re only there to allow your Light (Jesus) to shine within you as a guide.


Sometimes people run because they are in a place where they don’t have a mind to understand truth. John 1:5 says, “And light shineth in darkness; And the darkness comprehended it not.” Don’t get offended, they simply just don’t understand. And sometimes, they understand, but can’t handle the heat of the Light and would rather stay in darkness because they like what they’re doing. Sad, but true. John 3:19 says, “This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil.”

As my dad always says, “You can’t grow up GROWN folk.” People are going to do what they want to do despite the fact of knowing the truth and there’s nothing you could ever do to change that except PRAY.

So how do you make amends with those whom you love that have gone astray in their disobedience you ask? Forgive them and MOVE on. Don’t get distracted by their absence. Allow God to restore them and your fellowship. If they are divinely connected to your purpose and meant to be in your life, they will be there. Learn to thank God for removing people out of your life who are not DIVINELY connected to your purpose. Don’t be moved..Don’t be alarmed. You’re not obligated to “bless” or “co-sign” mess and neither is God. A dead end is a dead end. Continue to boldly speak truth and stand on the Word of God..You will be blessed for it.